Saturday, January 14, 2012

Debbie 1961-2012

Thursday morning started out as any other normal day around here.  I received a message from a friend of mine, Carrie,  asking if all was well with Debbie.   Carrie said she felt God tugging on her heart that she needed to be praying for Debbie.  I replied she can always use prayers.  (I have shared on here before that Debbie was diagnosed with neuroencocrine cancer.).  Since I get people asking daily how Debbie is, I didn't really think that much of it until a few minutes later when my dad called and said we needed to come as soon as possible.  We quickly did the chores, JD picked up Emily from school while I packed, incase we needed to spend the night and we headed to Warrensburg. 

All day, she had her family and close friends with her, taking turns sitting by her bedside, holding her hands, praying, and reading scripture.  Thursday evening, January 12, 2012, around 9:21 p.m., Debbie spread her wings and flew to Jesus.  For the first time since October of 2010, she was pain free.

She leaves behind Molly and Sam, and husband Tim.  She took comfort in knowing where she was headed when she left this earth, and knowing that her family will someday be joining her.  She will always be missed by her family, church family, work family and friends, but will also always be in our hearts.  We cry for us, not for her.
When she was diagnosed in October of 2010, she at one time was told she had around 12 weeks to live.  She fought it, with all she had, and had quality time with her family during her fight, even going camping and to Florida and to a set to see a movie being filmed.

2 Timothy 4:7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.

3 John 1:4 I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.3 John 1:4

1 comment:

Dawn said...

April- I want to thank you for this blog and posting about Debbie. I am a good friend of hers, but I moved 6 years ago, and as distance does, it was hard to stay in touch with Debbie. I will always regret not staying in close contact with her those years, but I also know that we are both to blame. We were both raising families and had busy lives. I know that the distance didn't matter, because once I heard her diagnosis, we were on the phone and as usual she was trying to console me! She and I worked together at the hospital, I worked there before she was hired, but once she was there it was like she was meant to be there. We quickly became friends, and would work together all day, and then I would take my daughter to her house in the evening. We would eat chinese, drink Dos Equis, and watch the best of SNL- Will Farrell. She even gave me a cowbell as a wedding gift! I was lonely and couldn't find a good man in the burg,so I resorted to eHarmony, and Debbie and I would go through the choices sent to me. I was very selective, and Debbie picked out a guy that she said would be perfect for me. I ignored someone because his name was Karl and he didn't capitalize his name. Debbie made me talk to Karl, and we have been married for 6 years. Debbie just has this special power to know people and to know what they need. She was always willing to take on the hardest cases at the hospital. People who had lost a child, difficult family members, and people with cancer. I remember when a man in his 40's was diagnosed with cancer, Debbie immediately said that she would go see him and his family- she saw that family through every visit to the hospital, all the way to end of the patients life. The way that Debbie lived her life,was almost a foreshadowing of how her life would be taken away. I know that she felt as much support from her family and friends as she gave to that family. Her kindness and generousity of heart should be an example to mankind of how to live. Her death should be an example to mankind on how to die with dignity and how to let the will of God lead you home. I know Debbie is an angel, she was an angel here on earth. I know that I have someone watching over me, and she will meet me when it is my time to go. I will love and miss her forever.
Dawn Richter Wilking